Flirty Questions To Ask A Girl Over Text – Increase Attraction By 1000%

Flirty Questions To Ask A Girl Over Text

What up player, let’s talk about flirty questions to ask a girl over text.

After reading this article, you’re going to know exactly how to send flirty messages to every type of woman and the principles behind why they work.

Things you’ll learn

  • What you shouldn’t do
  • Types of women to send flirty questions to
  • The right way to send flirty questions
  • Examples

Now, as I always say, be slightly cautious when sending edgy messages. Remember, girls can sometimes interpret your text messages in the wrong way. This depends on a number of factors such as their mood, current life affairs and other unforeseen variables. Remember each girl is unique, so calibrate your messages to her personality and you should be good to go.

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Flirty Questions To Ask A Girl Over Text – The Wrong Way

If you’ve been following us for a while, you’ll know that we’re very big on calibration with women. No two women are the same.

However, there are some general rules that apply to the majority of women, especially in the “don’t do” department.

First, do not send the typical Hollywood over sexualized macho man text.

For example, you’ve just met a girl and you send her the following text.

“Sup girl, damn you looking fine in your pic.”

“Hey sexy thing, let’s have sex”

“Hey hot stuff, let’s hook up.”

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If you’re looking at those examples and thinking, “what the hell? I would never send anything like that”. Good, you’re already halfway there.

I’ve seen so many guys send messages like this. It truly does amaze me. Now to be fair, its more common over Tinder, but a good portion of guys still do this over text. Don’t do it, not unless you’re 100% certain she would be comfortable with that type of behavior.


If you’re not sure what to send a girl, check out our ebooks, or other articles across this site and you’ll be in a much better position to text.

Sending over flirtatious text messages is fine, as long as it calibrates and matches the woman’s personality. If you send an over sexualized text to a shy reserved girl, watch how quick she blocks your ass or goes silent.

If you send the same message to an outgoing, sexual, laid back carefree girl, she’ll be more receptive to it.

If you send it to a girl whose in-between, it could go either way.

You can tell if a woman is up for overly flirtatious questions based on all your in-person interactions with her.

  • Is she flirtatious by nature?
  • Does she enjoy sexual conversation?
  • Is she reserved?
  • Does she respond to texts with simple answers?
  • Does she laugh a lot at edgy jokes? Etc.

Also remember, if you send a flirtatious question and she doesn’t respond, it could indicate that you’ve gone a little too far.

Consider all of these points before proceeding.

Flirty Questions To Ask A Girl Over Text – The Purpose??

This is a very important question to consider before sending a  flirty message. What is the purpose of asking the girl a flirty question?

Are you trying to turn the interaction more sexual? Do you want to turn her on? Are you feeling horny? Have you run out of things to say? Are you trying to avoid the friend zone? Are you trying to appear more sexual?

Consider all these points and don’t just turn the interaction sexual for no reason.  You want flirtation over text to follow a nice natural rhythm of conversation.

Flirty Questions To Ask A Girl Over Text – The Right Way

Sending flirty questions to a girl over text is quite straight forward once I’m going to tell you straight. Replace the word flirty with teasing.  You want to tease the girl like you did when you were a little kid. Teasing and flirtation are one in same, and by re-framing flirtation as teasing, you’re stopping yourself from falling into that macho man over sexualized text guy.

Remember, women are getting the same sexual flirty text messages every day from a bunch of other guys. Be different in your approach.

Women get turn on by feeling connected to a man. The purpose of sending a flirty text should be one of the following

  • To add excitement to your messages
  • To gather more information about the woman / build rapport
  • To build sexual tension

Tease Tease Tease Tease Tease……and….Tease

Be Playful Playful Playful Playful

Cheeky Cheeky Cheeky

Use nicknames for her to stand out from 99% of the other guys.

Memes also work amazingly. Send cheeky memes with a slight hint of flirtation for maximum impact. Simply type ‘funny memes’ or ‘flirty memes’ into google to find a ton of memes you can use.

Ask deep open ended questions to find out more about her.

Use emoticons to emphasis flirtation. The winky emoticon lets her know that you’re fooling around. As I said previously, sometimes women can misinterpret text messages? The winky emoticon will eliminate that issue.

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Consideration And Timing For Flirty Messages

Before we jump into the examples, remember, you need to ask flirtatious questions in a way that is not super over sexualized, but still gets the same response from the woman as if you did send an over sexualized text. Make sense?

This of course doesn’t apply to all women, but it’s a good place to start in order to pull more frequently.

Save all that sexual energy  for when you hook up with her in person.

In my experience flirty questions usually work best during the evening.


Well, a woman is more likely to be at home during this time and is more likely to be in a emotional sexual state compared to the day time.

The woman is not at work or college and has more time to dedicate to her phone.

Flirty Questions To Ask A Girl Over Text Examples

Alright, you should have a solid basic foundation of what you should and shouldn’t do in text.

Now, let’s look at some personal examples of flirty questions to ask a girl over text.

This list is broken down into flirty questions and statements for when you’re just starting to date a woman. Over sexualized messages for when you’re already hooked up with the girl or just seeing her on the side. And finally, open ended flirtation questions for women who are more reserved and shy.

Enjoy player.

Super flirty messages  (Questions & Statements)

Send these messages to a women you are already dating or a women whom you have just met.

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1) Hey You 😉

“Hey you” 😉

“Hey Pretty” 😉

“Hey Cutie” 😉

This is a great way to start a conversation with a woman. The winky face let’s her know you’re being flirty without saying it directly.

Side note: Make sure you have developed a bit of rapport with the gal before sending something like this.

2) You look hot/cute in that ….

“You look hot in that dress”

“You look cute in that hat”

“You look cute in those glasses”

We all use social media apps to communicate with each other. Whatsapp, facebook messenger, Line, Viber, etc. Each of these apps allow us to assign a profile picture to our account. If she is wearing a new outfit or accessory in her picture? Let her know. Don’t do this too much however as it could turn creepy if you constantly bombard her with compliments every time she changes her picture.

3) Let’s hang out tomorrow/tonight….

“Let’s hang out tomorrow/tonight. I promise you won’t regret it” 😉

This text sets plans for both of you, has the winky face to emphasis flirtation and keeps things sexual with the  “I promise”.

4) Hey you. Haven’t spoken to you in while…….

“Hey you. Haven’t spoken to you in while and thought id say hello” 😉

This works on women whom you have built rapport with or have high chemistry with.  Women love when you have them on your mind. It makes them feel appreciated and valued. Don’t do this type of message too often on the same gal however as it will lose its effect.

5) I can’t wait to see you 😉

“I can’t wait to see you” 😉

This text combined with the wink is sexual by nature. Everyone wants to feel wanted and this message does a good job of conveying that. Be careful though, if you have not already establish some sort of flirtatious connection, it could be interpreted as needy.

6) If me and you were together right now……….

“If me and you were together right now, what would we be doing?”

This type of message will naturally make her think about sex as deep down we all just want to screw.  It works well as you’re not the one directly saying anything sexual. She’ll be the one to assume it first.

7) Have a good night……. 

“Have a good night. Don’t dream about me too much” 😉

This one demonstrates that you’re confident and challenges her not to think about you, which indirectly makes her think of you……..which leads to more attraction.

8) I saw this and thought of you…..

I saw this and thought of you….. 😉 (insert something that could be interpreted sexual.)

Insert anything, a cute teddy bear, a cute cartoon, a cool bit of scenery, etc. She’ll thank you for it. If you’re dealing with a really hot woman, insert something slightly rude and challenging.

9) Me and you. Dinner tonight!

“Me and you. Dinner tonight!”

This one is very commanding and will make the girl feel instantly attracted to you. It takes a confident man to send such a message.

10)  I love when you wear that….

“I love when you wear that (insert clothing). It looks hot.”

Every girl wants to look and feel sexy. By sending this text, you’re validating her sexiness. It works like a treat.

5 over sexualized text messages (Good for girlfriends or friends with benefits)

Use these messages when you’re sleeping with a girl, if she’s highly kinky or if you’re seeing her on a ongoing basis.

questions to ask your crush over text message

1) I’m free tonight… Wanna have a little…..

“I’m free tonight… Wanna have a little fun?” 😉

Highly sexualised text. Its direct, to the point and works really well on kinky sexual girls. Give it a try, you won’t regret it.

2) Meet me in the bedroom, sexy 😉

“Meet me in the bedroom, sexy” 😉

If you’re going around for dinner, send this message to really get her going.

3) Do you enjoy making me…..

“Do you enjoy making me hard?”

This message is very bold, but has given me great results. Women love  exciting their men sexually. This message validates their hotness and makes them feel appreciated.

4) Tell me you’re biggest sexual fantasy?

“Tell me you’re biggest sexual fantasy?”

Love this message so much. Honestly it’s amazing some of the things girls are into. Use this message to unleash their inner sex freak.

5) What turns you on the most?

“What turns you on the most?”

Another golden question as it gives you information which you can use to your advantage when you next meet her in person. Find out her turn on and turn offs and act accordingly.

Open Ended Flirtation Questions

Use these questions on shy girls or girls who you wish to develop a better connection with. These questions are more indirect but can give you more information about the girl and can help you massively to build rapport when you next see her.

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1) What did you dream of when you were a child?

“What did you dream of when you were a child?”

We all have dreams when we were young and honestly, most of us never realize those dreams. Use this text to get more information on the girl and tease her if she is remotely kinky

2) What makes you feel loved?

“What makes you feel loved?”

Use this to find out what turns her on in the love department and then use tease texting to push the flirtation forward.

3) How adventurous are you?

“How adventurous are you?”

Everyone wants to be more adventurous and this text will give you a good idea what level she is at. Maybe you can help her become more adventurous 😉

4) What type of parties do you like

“What type of parties do you like”

A good text to gauge if she’s into loud house parties, bars, clubs or more of a stay at home kind of girl.

5)  What is your biggest fantasy?

“What is your biggest fantasy?”

This is a great message to learn about her deepest desires. All of us have kinky desires despite our public persona.  A lot of the time, this sort of message can turn the interaction sexual.

Flirty Questions To Ask A Girl Over Text – Case Study 1

Finally, let’s take a look at a case study of flirty questions to ask a girl over text.

Type of Girl (American loud girl)

I met this American girl when at a club in the city. She was tall, blonde, well proportioned and had one crazy hair style. Super hot. Not surprisingly, her personality matched that crazy hair. She was wild. Deep sexual eye contact. Super flirtatious and honestly a good sense of humor. I  gave her the nickname ‘Sideshow Bob’, a character from the Simpsons.

Side note: Nicknames are perfect for flirtation

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Here’s the text conversation

“Hey sideshow bob, sorry i had to leave early last night. If only we had 1 more hour to enjoy that bottle of wine together……”

Now, let’s dive in. I’ve called her Sideshow bob. A MALE character from the Simpsons. This instantly makes me stand out from the rest of the other guys. Its fun, it teases her and lets her know im different.

How many men tell an attractive woman she looks like a crazy cartoon character?

None. That’s how many.

“Sorry, i had to leave early last night.”

I had to shoot off as i was attended a birthday party but I let her know we should keep in contact.

“If only we had one more hour to enjoy that bottle wine together”

We were having an amazing time and topped off the night with a bottle of wine. Highlighting that we both enjoyed the wine together natural indicates flirtation.

This text overall reminds her of the amazing time we had together and naturally creates a situation where she is imagining me and her in our own little bubble. It was sent to create excitement and keep her interested. Im happy to say it worked like a treat.

Her “Hahaha. i almost finished the entire bottle. You had some amazing moves on the dance floor hun. x”

Me “Me and you tomorrow night. Let’s have some fun”

Her “Very confident Mr..”

Me “That a yes?”

Her “Yes, what time should we meet?”

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Mission accomplished. She’s responded, is engaged and is clearly attracted to me.

The good thing about this girl and timing of my text is that im still fresh in her mind from our initial interaction. This girl was very straight forward and sexual, so that helped massively. I didn’t play it safe. I took a risk and it paid off.

Hopefully after reading this article you now know the right flirty questions to ask a girl over text.

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